Men that constantly have problems attracting women never seem to get it. There is no ‘secret formula’ to meeting and dating women. There’s not a surefire easy way to get a girl to fall in love with you. Despite this reality, lovelorn guys turn to online dating ‘gurus’ over and over. Some of their advice can be helpful, but the majority of it is useless.
No matter how smooth the guru’s ‘pitch’ is, you do not need hypnosis, ‘kino’, magic tricks, or hand puppets to make a woman fall in love with you. You don’t need gimmicks. You don’t need “tricks” from gurus. You just need to be yourself.
This ‘be yourself’ strategy only works if you have successfully moved from boyhood to manhood. Your age has nothing to do with this distinction.
Many men go their entire lives stuck in a state of adolescence and never develop a strong personal identity. It’s not a coincidence that many of these ‘stunted adolescents’ are the type of men who have trouble meeting women.
Tricks And Techniques Won’t Make You A Man
It’s a very simple concept–once you become a man that is comfortable and confident with your life and your identity, you will no longer have any trouble with women. You’ll possess the qualities that women find universally attractive in men including integrity, self-respect, and authenticity. These are attributes that you can’t fake. Ironically, many of the ‘dating gurus’ suggest that you can. It may sound counterintuitive, but the more you prioritize yourself, the more attractive you’ll be to women.
Women want a man that is socially, intellectually, and emotionally mature. They want a man that is confident in himself and lives life with passion and drive. What they don’t want is an overgrown adolescent who is ‘needy’ or who lacks self-respect. Placing too great of a focus on a woman demonstrates that you are not only needy but that you lack many, if not all of the qualities of a fully formed man.
You Can’t “Make” A Woman Love You
You can’t trick or convince a woman to fall in love with you. If you even consider this a viable option, it’s a clear indication that you’re not ready to love and have someone love you. Women can instinctively spot need, fear, and diffidence in a man. It is the diametric opposite of what women find universally attractive. If you have the type of needy, obsessive desire for a woman more appropriate for high school boys, you’ve got a lot of work to do.
Women place a far greater emphasis on personality traits than any other component of a man’s persona. Good looks or a guru taught ‘technique’ may get attention at a bar but beyond that mean little.
The only way to develop the qualities that draw women to men is to earn them. The only way to earn them is to build genuine self-worth from a strong sense of self, a passionate approach to life, and congruence between your values and how you interact with the world. Once you do, you’ll easily attract women into your life.